For The Love Of God, Throw Out Your Panini Press
Why are you keeping things from bad relationships?
I was a girlfriend, I’m now married, just became a new mom, and oh, my family is making sandwiches on the panini press my ex-boyfriend gave me.
Yup, that’s me, I’m Glenna.
Well, I’m living my best life!
Of course, there are some bumps in the road with my love life, relationships with friends, and family and my health, well, I’m a mom, so I get a pass.
Alright, I am not doing so great, but I am not alone;
Everyone is just like me, right?
So let me explain, Glenna is a my best friend, but she is a mess, a good mess, perhaps the sort of the mess that you might be, no offense.
Yes, she’s a rambler, so hang in tight for a sec, I’ll get her back on track.
Alright, back to our conversation!
Umm, Glenna… let’s focus on you. No need to measure your pile of mess up against someone else.
Ok, fine, What’s the hype? Who cares if I’m using the panini press.
Glenna, Trust me; It’s beyond the panini press.
Ok, well it’s not like I hold onto everything from the past.
Oh crap, did I just make the bed with the comforter set that I used with my ex Jimmy, that my husband sleeps on?
Shhh, between you and me.
I still have this love letter from ex-boyfriend number 14, can’t remember his name; that’s his fault he should have signed the card, duh!
I have it stashed in my a keepsake drawer because it was super cute.
My husband has not figured out my words affirmations love language, so occasionally I love to re-read Mr. Anonymous tell me how beautiful I am.
Oh gosh, Monica, why are you popping up in my head right now?
Ugh, that flipping wretch so-called friend. You won’t believe what she…
Grab’s coffee,
sips…
Crap, I got the coffee on my …
Wait, Monica’s shirt!
Honey, if this is you, if you are Glenna, please tell me why?
I guess Monica isn’t so bad. I mean, you launder her shirt and wear it to start your day.
And that comforter set, I’m sure your husband doesn’t mind the closeness of Jimmy’s DNA while he is sharing an intimate moment with his wife.
My question to you is…
Why are you holding on to these items?
It can’t be that you cannot afford a new panini press or a beloved t-shirt or a love letter; well, maybe you can’t get the love letter that easily, but you get my point.
Scratch that, don’t answer that question, and do me a favor.
These things have got to go!
I don’t care if you’re on good terms.
Bye, bye. BYE!
Yes, I am inserting N’SYNC “Bye, bye, bye” right now.
You’ve got to love them, leave them out of your home, and really out of your life.
Here’s why!
They are not people you treasure anymore; therefore, they are unwanted, and that same vibration holds true with their items.
Ask yourself why you are keeping the things you don’t like or care about in your sacred space, that being, your home.
You might say to yourself, “well, it harmless, and I actually need this thing,” so you see it as a freebie, or the item “didn’t do anything” to you, so it can stay.
Well, you’re mistaken.
It’s so funny that you still think of Monica and that icky fight no matter how long ago you had that disagreement. But then you proceed to wear her shirt and re-live that unhealed traumatic emotion every time you look at it.
Ok, weird, but ok.
Now that your prayers have been answered to have a new man in your life.
Yay!
You decide to pull out the blanket you cuddled with the no-name ex and the agent provocateur lingerie set that cost you a gazillion dollars, that you can’t give away, because, well…it cost a lot.
So you prance around in it for your new guy hoping not to manifest the same disastrous relationship over again.
It’s funny how repetition works.
Eventually, that relationship turned into a disaster and mimicked the same issues in your past.
Poor thing.
Here what you’re probably going to do.
Freak-out and ask the Gods if you’re cursed because you keep having the same experiences with every new relationship?
Umm, no, you’re not cursed! You are subtly holding onto the past. FYI, the energy from your past relationship lingers on well after the person has left. And that energy is present in their stuff!
Gifts, their personal items, things with deep memories attached to it — like pictures, and even that first date dress you bought; if it reminds you of them, then it has got to go.
You need to allow space for blessings to enter and to fully manifest.
Now I am not saying that you need to throw away everything you own that reminds you of them (Actually I am saying that, but I’m trying to lay it on you softly) because sometimes that spider plant you got together brings you joy, and you aren’t reminded of them whenever you water it.
Then of course! totally keep it.
But if you’re me.
My rule of thumbs is that everything must go. Even the things that brought you joy in that relationship.
Because it’s simple, that time was great, and now its time to move on.
A clean slate equates to new possibilities; I could be terribly wrong, but I have only been on the side of the story where it has always favored me.
You decide.
